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08

Oct

Things parents forget to tell their children

  • Bodies are hairy. No matter the gender, your face will have hair and that is more than okay.
  • Your butthole is going to have some hair too. And maybe your nipples. And your tummy. And where ever else.
  • Stretch marks. Those are a thing. Everyone gets ‘em. If you don’t, you probably don’t have skin.
  • Vaginas smell. Every vagina has a scent. Don’t worry about it! (Unless something seems wrong, then go get it checked out! No need to feel embarrassed or ashamed.)
  • Vaginas come in all different shapes, sizes, colors, flavors. All are beautiful.
  • Penises come in all different shapes, sizes, colors, flavors. All are beautiful.
  • You don’t need to shave anything if you don’t want to. It’s tooootally not mandatory. 
  • Sometimes people get butt acne. 
  • You can have a vagina and want short hair and think dresses are just the worst.
  • You can have a penis and want long hair and think dresses are just the best. 
  • You can wear whatever you want and style your hair however you want.
  • You can even think whatever the hell you want.
  • People might tell you that you are a girl because you have a vagina. People might tell you that you are a boy because you have a penis. People will tell you what your gender is. But in reality, you don’t have to be that gender. You don’t have to be either of those genders. 
  • You are what you are and it’s just the worst thing if you try and hide that.

04

Aug

Now fully covered. Awesome. 

Now fully covered. Awesome. 

01

May

Planned Parenthood is on Tumblr!

plannedparenthood:

Planned Parenthood is excited to be launching our new Tumblr that’s all about sexual and reproductive health – bodies, birth control, relationship issues, “is it normal for this to do this?” type things. In the coming weeks and months we’ll be sharing what we know, answering questions, and just… tumblring. 

We hope you like it! And we hope it helps.

17

Mar

itsnotovertonight:

A slide from anthropology class that I found quite powerful. Thanks to my professor Dr. Andrew Marshall of UC Davis.

itsnotovertonight:

A slide from anthropology class that I found quite powerful. Thanks to my professor Dr. Andrew Marshall of UC Davis.

10

Mar

In the US, rape and sexual violence are more common than smoking.

Sexual violence is a pervasive public health problem in the United States. In December 2011, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention released the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey. Throughout the country, headlines of local and national papers described that rape is more common than previously thought.

Today an article published in on Significance Magazine’s web site, a publication of the American Statistical Association and Royal Statistical Society, compared these rates to those of smoking – 18.3% of women over 18 reported being sexual assaulted in their lifetime while 17.4% of women reported smoking. Let consider this as we set health priorities.

Just as in smoking prevention, preventing sexual violence before it happens in the first place is crucial. NISVS demonstrated that sexual violence often first happen when peopel are young, thus early prevention efforts are vital.

Wow.

09

Mar

Ten Days in a Madhouse: The Woman Who Got Herself Committed

In 1887, intrepid reporter Nellie Bly pretended she was crazy and got herself committed, all to help improve conditions in a New York City mental institution.

“The insane asylum on Blackwell’s Island is a human rat-trap. It is easy to get in, but once there it is impossible to get out.”

Those words, describing New York City’s most notorious mental institution, were written by journalist Nellie Bly in 1887. It was no mere armchair observation, because Bly got herself committed to Blackwell’s and wrote a shocking exposé called Ten Days In A Madhouse. The series of articles became a best-selling book, launching Bly’s career as a world-famous investigative reporter and also helping bring reform to the asylum.

Way to go, Nellie!

07

Mar

Defriending My Rapist - NYTimes.com

Facebook suggested I friend him. I guess our social networks overlapped. I guided the mouse toward his photo, and the little pointed hand hovered over his face. Fear and anger swelled up but curiosity won out and I clicked “Add Friend.” He accepted within minutes. Stunned, I wondered if he had forgotten raping me, or if he thought I had.

Wow. What a read.

05

Mar

"My sister lost her baby... and my state requires her to see the ultrasound before she aborts it."

stfuconservatives:

leeleeleelee submitted: “This is the reality of Texas’ ultrasound for abortion bill.  A 30 year old Texas woman’s fetus’ heart stopped beating after 12 weeks.  The options given were to wait until miscarriage, give birth to it, or to abort it (the preferred, safest option).  She has to look at an ultrasound of her already dead fetus and if she looks away, she will have to listen to the Doctor describe it.”

I don’t have anything snarky to say about this. This is heartbreaking. These ultrasound laws are cruel, invasive, and do nothing to lower abortion rates.

This is horrifying. HORRIFYING.

And for the record, not a deterrent. I saw my ultrasound by accident and still made a difficult choice that I have never regretted, because now I’m a happily married professional making a conscious decision to have children with the right person at the right time in my life.

To force someone who wanted that baby to look at an ultrasound of the already-deceased fetus is simply cruel and horrible and wrong.

04

Mar

fernacular:

Welcome to: If Male Superhero Costumes were Designed Like Female Superhero Costumes!

Aaaaa I dunno. I got tired of guys having no idea why girls find female superhero’s costumes kinda sexist, so I, um, made this?

My main goals were: 1) Make it so the first thing you think of when you look at them is sex, whether you want to or not. 2) make it so that any male human who looks at this feels really uncomfortable. 3) make it funny, because, well, it’s kinda hilarious really.

Not trying to start a war here, just wanted to poke a bit of fun.

So, here you go menfolk, welcome to being a girl who likes comics.

22

Feb

Republican war on women.

Republican war on women.

17

Feb

katespencer:

I’m so glad these are the people testifying on Capitol Hill about birth control today. I feel so represented! 
[PlannedParenthood, Jezebel]

What the fucking fuck.

katespencer:

I’m so glad these are the people testifying on Capitol Hill about birth control today. I feel so represented! 

[PlannedParenthood, Jezebel]

What the fucking fuck.

16

Feb

(Source: fuckyeahfeminists)

13

Feb

The Pervocracy: The People You Meet When You Write About Rape.

TRIGGER WARNING for rape and rape apologism.

  • Mr. What About The Men “The real problem here is all these false rape accusations that are destroying our society! 90 million men are falsely accused of rape every second! A woman just has to sort of mumble a word starting with ‘r’ and a man instantly gets a life sentence! There are no instances on record of a woman actually being raped!”
  • Ms. Tough Girl “If women would learn martial arts—70-year-olds and women with disabilities can do this if they put their minds to it, darnit—and carry weapons everywhere, no one would ever get raped! All you have to do is be ready to threaten your own friends and lovers with lethal force at any moment, any anyone who can’t do that must be weak or something.”
  • Mr. Model Victims Only Please “The victim was no angel herself. If you look at her record, she’s been arrested several times, she’s a single mother, and she’s living on welfare. So it’s not like she was some innocent little virgin beforehand. None of this makes it right, but I’m just saying, let’s not overreact like a good woman got ruined.”
  • Ms. Fashion Police “Did you hear what she was wearing? I’m sorry but that’s just not common sense. If you go out looking like a piece of meat, you have to expect you’ll get treated like a piece of meat.”
  • Mr. I’m Not Blaming Her But It’s Her Fault “Rape is never the victim’s fault, of course. But I just want people to admit that she has some responsibility. That she maybe played a part in it. That in an alternate universe where she’d done things differently and she lived in a steel Battlemech wearing a chastity belt, she wouldn’t have gotten raped, and she did make the choice to not use a Battlemech. I just need people to acknowledge that.”
  • Ms. Couples Therapy “I dunno, seems to me like they both made mistakes. Maybe he just wasn’t reading her signals, or maybe she wasn’t communicating clearly to him. A lot can get caught up in an emotional moment like that and I bet they both feel really bad right now.”
  • Mr. Offensive And/Or Baffling Metaphor “Look, if you walk down a dark alley with a wallet stuffed full of money, sure it’s still a crime when you get mugged, but what if the mugger is just trying to feed his family because he was laid off by an evil solicitor and the ghost showed him a lone crutch leaning in the corner?”
  • Ms. CSI “If you put the pieces together, her story just doesn’t wash. She claims that he ripped her pants off, but her pants have a button fly. Ha! And she waited a whole forty minutes after the supposed rape to call the police—who would do that?”
  • Mr. Troll “lol bitch deserved it loooollll”
  • Ms. You Don’t Just Get To Decide Whether You Consent “She was seen earlier in the night drinking with this guy, talking to him, and even making out with him! And then she went up to his apartment! What did she think would happen? No one ever goes to a guy’s apartment unless they’re consenting to every sex act he could possibly want.”
  • Mr. How Do I Not Rape Someone It Is So Difficult “I just don’t understand how to tell if someone is ‘consenting’ or not. What if she secretly decides she doesn’t like it—am I a rapist then? What if she changes her mind midway through? Or afterwards? It’s impossible to know what women want, so how am I supposed to know if they want to have sex with me or not?”
  • Ms. Traditional Values “You know, back when women dressed modestly and simply didn’t go out drinking with strangers or going home with people they’d just met, this sort of thing didn’t happen.”
  • Mr. This Wouldn’t Happen If Women Would Just Fuck Me Already “This sort of thing is inevitable when women constantly act as gatekeepers and doom beta males to a life of frustration and loneliness. Of course rape is horrible, but the pent-up rage felt by men cast aside just because they weren’t billionaire underwear models has to express itself somehow.”
  • Ms. Avoid The R-Word “Wow, that is just not cool. Having sex under those circumstances—I mean, treating a girl like that—you know, being inappropriate with her—is a totally insensitive and downright mean thing to do.”

I think I have encountered every single one of these stereotypes.

07

Feb

Gynecologists told to prepare to treat transgender patients

The American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology has come out with a new statement for their members: it’s time to prepare to work with transgender patients.

To address the significant health care disparities of transgender individuals and to improve their access to care, ob-gyns should prepare to provide routine treatment and screening or refer them to other physicians, according to The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (The College).

In a Committee Opinion published today, The College also states its opposition to gender identity discrimination and supports both public and private health insurance coverage for gender identity disorder treatment.

I think this is incredibly awesome. :)

05

Feb

Why I Will Never Be Donating to Komen Foundation Again

brandicesays:

Regarding: Komen Foundation Now Says It Will Continue Grants to Planned Parenthood (NPR):

I will never donate a dime to Komen Foundation again.

I am someone who went several years without health insurance (during and after undergrad), so I have received birth control, my first of many subsequent breast exams, sex education, instruction on self-exams, yearly pelvics, the morning after pill, and most importantly, one very crucial referral (since they don’t perform them in my area) to a safe place to have my 2002 abortion… all from my local Planned Parenthood. 

This is exactly the type of fiasco right-wing ass clowns hoped to generate by going on a witch hunt to find mis-use of Planned Parenthood funding. Cast yet-unfounded doubt on an organization that has done more for women’s health than any other organization (in my opinion) and put politic pressure where there should be NONE.

Someone made the joke to me recently that we should thank Komen for the money that was raised during this period of outrage and backlash, but I’m not in the habit of thanking a women’s health organization for putting anything other than women’s health FIRST.

I don’t care that Komen Foundation has caved to a new kind of politic pressure (the backlash of the outraged left wing, myself included). My eyes are open and the money I’ve given to Komen will be redirected to other charities.

Anyone who’d like to pat me on the head any further and chalk my response up to my silly liberal ways can henceforth go fuck themselves. I owe a good deal of where I am as a healthy woman to Planned Parenthood.

From my personal blog. Komen is permanently off my donation list.